In the quiet moments of our lives, within the walls of our homes, behind closed doors with our spouses, and in the routine interactions with our children and others, lies the true test of our spiritual maturity. And with this article, I want to bring to our hearts what Pastor Enoch calls “The Love Walk.” This is not a walk of grand public gestures, but a journey of the tongue and of the heart.
To walk in love is to recognize that our words are not merely sounds; they are spiritual tools. They have the power to either “rubbish” the souls of those we love or to build them into the confident, God-fearing individuals they were meant to be.
The Architecture of the Home: Building with Words
In his teaching, Pastor Enoch draws our attention to the profound responsibility of the “head of the home.” Whether you are a father, a husband, or a leader, your words act as the atmosphere of your household.
Consider the “confident exit.” There is a way to speak to a wife and a way to speak to children that empowers them to walk out of the front door feeling invincible and confident. Conversely, there is a way to speak that makes them leave the house defeated before their day has even begun. As Christians, we are called to follow the blueprint of Ephesians 4:29: “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
Edification is a construction term, and to edify is to build up. Every time we choose a kind word over a sarcastic one, or a gentle correction over a sharp rebuke, we are laying another brick in the fortress of our family’s confidence.
The Trap of “Result-Based” Love
One of the most challenging aspects of the Love Walk is learning to praise effort and progress rather than just final results. Some people were raised in environments where “good” was never enough, where being 3rd in class was met with, “What happened to the person who was 1st; does the person have two heads?”
Pastor Enoch warns us that this approach “rubbishes” the effort of the child. When we ignore the progress someone has made because we are obsessed with the destination, we risk destroying their desire to try at all. So let us learn to begin by acknowledging their good works before moving to correction. By investing in the “emotional bank account” of our loved ones through praise, we earn the right to be heard when we eventually have to offer guidance and correction.
Silencing the Clamor
The Bible instructs us to put away all “clamor.” In modern terms, Pastor Enoch defines clamor simply as shouting.
For many, shouting is a learned defense mechanism. We shout when we feel frustrated, unheard, or out of control, but the Love Walk demands a higher standard. Shouting is often a reflection of our upbringing, but it does not have to be our future. And as believers, we are called to “change our frequency.” We must realize that the Holy Spirit is grieved by bitterness and wrath. When we replace shouting with “gracious words,” we create a space where the Spirit of God can move and where hearts can truly be healed.
Kindness is Who You Are, Not What You Do
Perhaps the most transformative shift we can make is moving from “transactional kindness” to “identity-based kindness.”
Most people are kind because someone was kind to them; this is a transaction. But the Love Walk is different; you are not kind to your spouse because they “earned” it today; you are kind because you are a kind person. Your identity is found in Christ, and Christ is the embodiment of grace.
When kindness is your identity, you do not stop being kind just because someone took advantage of you. You do not stop speaking life just because the other person spoke death. You remain kind because your source of life is internal, fueled by the Holy Spirit, not external, fueled by the behavior of others.
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Conclusion
Walking the Love Walk requires intentionality; it means stopping before we speak to ask: “Will this word minister grace? Will it build up or tear down?” It is time to break the generational cycles of shouting and “rubbishing” effort. Let us become people who speak life, who celebrate progress, and who carry kindness as our permanent identity. When we do, we do not just change our homes; we reflect the very heart of the Father to a world desperate for grace.
